Romantic Love – What Is It and What It Only Appears To Be?

Romantic love – a topic known to everyone, yet elusive. It is often associated with excitement, longing, intense emotions. But is it really it? Is love what we have been thinking about it for years, what we know from movies, books and our own stories?

In this fragment of Satsang, Nitya answers the question about romantic love. How do we recognize it? How does it differ from attachment or the need for closeness? Is it really something to be found, or is it already there – beyond thought, beyond imagination? The question seems simple, but the answer defies convention. Because if love is more than just an emotional thrill, then what is it really?

Is love what we think it is?

Love is often associated with "butterflies in the stomach", excitement, desire for the other person. When it appears, the mind does not analyze - there is delight, full acceptance, exclusion of doubt.

But is this really love?

It is not uncommon to discover that what seemed like love was actually emotional exaltation. Sometimes a reaction of the body to something that does not serve at all. Then, instead of closeness, tension appears, followed by disappointment.

So what is love if not an emotion?

Highlights of Satsang:

• Love vs. excitement – what do we really feel? [2:00]

  The belief that love is intense emotion is deeply rooted. Fireworks, anxiety, euphoria – we often confuse them with closeness, when they may be a reaction to something that is not real.
  Nitya points out that at the beginning of falling in love, we often feel complete acceptance of the other person. The mind is turned off, it does not analyze - it simply is. The only question is whether it is actually love, or maybe a temporary lack of resistance towards another person.
  When expectations and illusions fall away, something else remains. A peace that does not require intensity. A feeling that does not depend on whether someone reciprocates our emotions.

• Love in acceptance and lightness [5:00]

  Love is not something that needs to be defined or controlled. It does not need conditions to occur.
  It is not the intensity of the emotion that makes love real, but what is left when the emotion subsides. Nitya points out that the love we feel for one person is no different than the love that encompasses the whole. The difference lies in what we allow ourselves to be open to in the moment.
  When the need to control this feeling disappears, all that remains is space – unbounded by any idea.

• Fear of intimacy or fear of illusion? [11:00]

  Past hurts make it hard to trust love. The thought often comes up: “What if I get burned again?” Fear of love is often more of a fear of the idea of ​​it—of how much it might hurt. We are waiting for the moment of "opening the heart", treating it as something that is yet to happen. But what if the heart was never closed?
  What seems like an obstacle may exist only in thought. Maybe it is not the heart that is closed, but the belief that something special must first happen for it to open. “But maybe it already happened?” - asks Nitya. Maybe there is nothing to wait for?

A love that doesn't have to be looked for

Is love something that appears or something that has always been there?

Sometimes the answers we seek have always been within us. Satsang does not bring new concepts – rather it reminds us of what is already known, but may have been overshadowed by thoughts, experiences, emotions.

There is no need to find love. It doesn't have to be manufactured, attracted, forced. Maybe what seems closed was never really closed? Maybe instead of looking for love, all you need to do is stop believing that it's not here?